Life, as it happens
Provoke
I thought I could involve her parents, but I’ve observed that they play mind tricks.
How they work is something like this:
- They start talking normally.
- They provoke the other person (OP). Try to make him angry.
- OP replies calmly or just listens quietly.
- Provoke OP more.
- OP retorts, unable to hold back. Loses his cool.
- Now hold the OP responsible for the angry words he said.
- Claim that these angry words are the real and final meaning.
- Ignore whatever we discussed calmly before.
- OP cannot claim the same – they cannot be held responsible for the angry words spoken by them.
You see the trap? I think the way out of it is not to respond at all. As Sri Krishna says, having self-control goes a long way.
Blackmail
Another technique they use is to threaten and blackmail.
Some examples:
- Doxxing: gather address and phone number of my sister and threaten me that they will ruin her life.
- Blackmail me that they will incite my wife to break out of our relationship – instead of making peace as parents, they threaten to break up. When asked why, they hold the words spoken by my dad grudgingly.
Revenge
The feeling of tit-for-tat and revenge is very strong. Far too many instances to list here.
- Credit card <–> common lunch <–> dad’s debit card